It’s safe to say that love is something that we all aspire to have. The idea of having someone who treats us right and makes us feel incredible is a dream come true. So how do we manifest these types of relationships? Can the Law of Attraction be used to find true love? Of course! Here are a few keys to attracting the relationship that you want.
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. Your really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.Lucille Ball
Know What You Want
Before you jump in trying to manifest the relationship that you want, you need to know what you want. The definition of a relationship; the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. To that end, you could be in a relationship with anyone, you need to attract your ideal partner, not just a relationship.
First, get clear on what you want out of a partner and how you want your relationship to be. Setting your intention lets the Universe know what you want and it helps you to work out what will ultimately make you happy. It is one of the main keys that you should adopt if you want to manifest love.
Take some time to yourself and write out a list of characteristics that you want in a partner and a relationship. Be as specific as possible. What do you want them to look like? How do you want them to treat you? What will the dynamics of your relationship be like? Write it out and feel good about what you are putting out into the Universe.
They say that nobody can love you if you don’t love yourself, but is that true? Yes, self-love is absolutely important for our wellbeing and the relationship that we have with others. However, you need to love yourself for you, not in the hopes that it will help you find someone to settle down with.
If you start to practice self-love but you have someone else in mind as the reason you are doing it, do you really love yourself? Make it all about you and genuinely put your heart and soul into appreciating who you are. Don’t just celebrate the good parts of yourself, acknowledge your weaknesses. When you can look at your flaws and still appreciate them in a healthy way you are on track to having a positive relationship with yourself.
However, if there are aspects of your personality or your physical self that are causing you distress it’s ok to change them. Many have the misconception that you need to love yourself 100%, no excuses. The reality is that we are always changing and growing, and that’s ok! If your weight was affecting your health would losing it mean you don’t love yourself? No. If you have anger issues, is seeking to change them a bad thing? Of course not.
Working to improve yourself is a sign of self-love. It is self-care because we want to show up as the best version of ourselves. We can still love who we are and what to become better people. Self-love can make you feel good about yourself and it can help you to attract the relationship you want. It will help you to set boundaries, align you with the vibration of love, know when to say no and it will enforce this idea of what you will and won’t accept.
Act As If
You can’t manifest love if your actions are contradicting your intention. Do you complain about how lonely you are to your friends? Is there room in your life for anything other than yourself and your work? The Universe responds to the vibration that you put out. Though it’s great that you are focusing on yourself, don’t get caught up being all about you and nothing else.
Make room for love in your life and act as if you already have it. Make space for the relationship that you want and become the person you wish to date. If you set the intention that you are ready for love and that you anticipate it then the Universe will have no choice but to respond to you. This is the law of the Universe.
Sleep on one side of the bed instead of being sprawled across the middle, buy roses for yourself and place them in your bedroom, clean out your wardrobe, play romantic music and watch romcoms. Do whatever makes you feel good and gives you the feeling of already having your ideal partner.
Think about how you would act or look while you’re dating. Would you look more polished? Are you the type to drag yourself around the house in an old dressing gown when you’re single but wear something a little sexier when you’re in a relationship? Throw out the old dressing gown and raise your vibration by wearing something that brings out the best in you. Act as if and you will attract your ideal partner into your reality.
Shift Limiting Beliefs
If you’ve ever suffered from heartbreak you’ll know how painful it can be. The lasting side effects and emotional wounds can have a lasting impact on the relationships that we have today. If we take on our pain they can become ingrained in our subconscious in the form of limiting beliefs. A cheating ex-partner becomes ‘I’m not worthy’ or a parent that was emotionally abusive turns into ‘I’m not good enough’.
These beliefs can get in the way of love. We could meet someone that is amazing, the absolute perfect match, but our beliefs lead us to feel as though we don’t deserve them. Beyond the past memories that we are holding on to, the root cause is fear. The idea of being hurt again, abandoned or whatever else we feel creates a block inside of us.
If we want to attract the relationship that we want, we have to remove them. To some that may seem impossible, their anger and sadness may run deep but just as they acquired these beliefs they can create new ones. A psychic reading by phone by an expert clairvoyant can be the alternate perspective that reveals new paths & possibilities.
First, you have to know what it is that you are afraid of. Ask yourself ‘what is my pain and then write it down.’ Confront them head-on, just this simple action will help you to take control of your situation. Then, next to your list of fears write out affirmations that counteract your limiting beliefs. Recite them morning and night to embed them into your subconscious mind and you will shift your awareness and manifest the love you desire. This is the key to attracting the relationship that you want.